Parenting Blessings

Once during a media interview on my company’s new product, I mentioned that I allowed my child an hour on computer and even have a blog dedicated to her. The media editor immediately commented, “I do not think it is a good idea. There are just too many “Bad”guys lurking around the cyberspace. Some of them may even use the photos posted on your blog. ” Isn’t this true ?  Yes, I do think so. But blogging is now a form of lifestyle for many of the Gen X or Y.  There is no way to prevent people from using your photos. But there are ways to minimize exposure for fear of harming or hurting your family or yourself.

Your kids will blog eventually. Many of them wouldn’t even want you (as parents) to know what they wrote on their blog. Just during a breakfast meeting, a few of my friends casually mentioned about the problems dealing with teenagers. One of them was how to know what they think and act.  One mentioned that she went through many many routes among the close and distant relatives to eventually get her son’s blog URL. When she reads his blog, her heart aches so much that she teared. She knows her son loves hard rock concert and she does not forbid him to go but she always reminded him to be careful and to take care of himself.  Through one of his blog, she got to know that there is a particular way that these concert goers love to act (to hit and bump each other on the body while music is being played.) On the blog, her son wrote how he was being slammed to and fro by the crowd and how he love that feelings. But in her heart, it aches. She cannot imagine her fragile and petite son can be flung out and towards bigger crowd and with shades or blue black all over his body. Her son nevers disclose to her what happen during the rock concerts and neither does he complain of his pain.  She cannot also imagine what will happen if her son discovers she reads his blog. She intend to keep this secret as much as possible.

However, at the back of my mind, I was wondering. How long will she lets her son goes no like this ?  Will there be a better way to communicate than to read his blog( knowing that he will flare up and throw his temper or even run away from home when he knows what he has been hiding from his mum and hurting himself ?)

I cannot predict what will happen to my “sweetie”one day when she also has her own blog. I hope what she wrote on her blog will also be shared with me too. Love and family bonding are important. Showing her that I care and I listen and I advise and love her will be what I want to do NOW. I do not want to wait till my  baby is a teenager hurting herself and hiding her secrets from me , knowing that what she is doing will also hurts and aches me. ( whom I love her most dearly in this world)

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