3 Fundamentals to Sucessful Parenting
Posted: December 28, 2007I learnt this from one of my business mentor but after much thought I figured that it is very applicable to even parenting. The 3 fundamentals to sucessful parenting are :
1. Focus
Are you focusing right in parenting ? We may think that as parents we are automatically focusing on raising our children. However, are we focusing on the right values and principles in raising our child ? Or have you checked if you have changed your focus through the road of parenting. Give it a thought and check with your closest family members (husband,wife,extended family or best friends)who know and see how you parent your child. They can be your best advisors and observers.
2. Consistency
Has consistency been applied in your parenting styles? Do you say yes one moment to your child and then back out of your promise ? (Like promise to return call in 5 minutes the midst of your work schedule and completely forgotten about it ? Not able to turn up for their concert when it was their first performance?) How were your behaviour and your words mean to them ? What you view and thought as consistent, was it acted consistently ? Children learnt best from their parents when the parents can give good models and examples consistently.
3. Patience
In the world of instant gratification, patience is a virtue that has to be groomed. Not all parents are consistently patient or express patient when comes to parenting. I have seen parents who are impatient and have many changes in the process of raising their children. Changes are necessary sometimes but patience needed to see results before changes are made. Have you ever been in a situation where you think that tuition or piano teacher is not good enough for your child because your child is not doing as well as you expect and you keep changing teachers ? Have you also noticed impatient parents breed impatient kids? How many kids now can really sit quietly in a restuarant (without a game console or handphone on hand or doing other things ) while their parents are trying to have a decent family dinner together without interruptions? Has dinner time been shorten as time goes past as children wanted instant food and mums and dads just do want to quick meals so that they can get back to their laptops to do their work in the evening ? Where have all the patience to wait on each other goes ?
Y2008, it is my goal to get my fundamentals right once again so that I will be a parent that can bless my children and my children will also be receiving focus, consistency blessing from me with one of the fruit as patience.
