Parenting Blessings

My daughter is at a stage where she does NOT experience examination anxiety at all. She has been so relaxed that I were the one who has examination anxiety on her behalf. .I have been travelling much this year because of my new role and frankly have not been diligently working with her on her revision on topics studied in school. It has been all fun and play with her whenever I have free time with her. Walking along the beach, singing songs, playing computer games or DS lite or even visiting friends and have dinner together with their children.This year, I did not feel the stress from the teachers. This was a surprise to me.  I have not received any emails or SMS from them or even notes on my daughter’s notebook on what to revise and what to note. Or have it that my daughter been losing all the notes given out.Yes, only 1 thing we did not prepared together. It was the Chinese Oral presentation. That was the only time I felt very anxious and worried. Daddy, who has not been very good ( or below average ) in Chinese was the one who help and corrected her essay for Chinese Oral and Composition examination. Both father and daughter had forgotten to consult the private tutor I hired for her in this area. When Daddy proudly show me the corrected essay (copied version)  which my daughter has submitted, I was furiously jumping mad ! The sentence construction was not right for 1-2 sentences. The words used are wrong! There are many Chinese words that sound alike but written in different ways as each word represent a different meaning. Her daddy totally got it wrong ! My daughter has since thought that was the correct word. ( Nian Ji ( 2nd Sound )meaning different grades in school vs Nian Ji (4 sound)- meaning different centuries.  You see, my daughter holds high esteem of her father. “Daddy and Mummy knows better and more words than I do. ” I have to do ” de- and re- engineering ” to her before can can get the pronouniciation and the right wording written accurately.So what did I do ? I did most parents in Singapore do. Took leave for 2 days and stay by her side to revise on all the sums she had done wrong, encourage and keep reminding her she has God by her side and has God given Wisdom; she has to call on Jesus and Jesus will give her the answer to her doubts.  Get her to bed early and ensure she gets the proper rest needed before her examination day. My daughter has been having this running nose for more than 10 days and I have just brought her to see her regular Dr Chan.Dr Chan was sharing about how a very anxious kid ( a patient of hers) whom cannot eat well and sleep well before examination was sent to her by her parents to be council by her. When my daughter heard this, she told me later in the evening before bed that she wants to visit Dr Chan again before next exam in school. I asked her why. She said Dr Chan’s patient got all As after visiting Dr Chan. She wants to do so too ! Well, in my heart, I was telling myself, it is I who need to see Dr Chan and not my daughter.

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One of the greatest things about having kids is being able to  relive your childhood all over again.And what better way to bond with your kids than to play with them ?The next time you start down the side walk with your 6 years old , have a running, hopping and jumping race to the nearest tree instead of  plodding along.And who said you can’t make faces in public ?When you are eating at the hawker centre and you feel like being silly, have a funny- face contest. When was the last time you sat down with a colouring- book ?Your little girl will love it when you lie on the floor beside her with a stack of crayons and colour.So don’t always take parenting so seriously,All after, why shouldn’t kids have all the fun ?

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A child’s brain is a terrible thing to waste - especially when there’s so much you can do to simulate it.As kids grow and develop, even the smallest daily tasks makes a difference in their cognitive skills. And there’s so much you can do to provide an extra boost to their development.Instead of letting your kids waste away the hours in front of the television, teach them to explore the world around them.Plan a trip to the zoo or a museum, or just to the airport and watch planes take off.The more diverse their experiences, the more their brains kick into gear. And make sure they have time to explore.Children learn by touching and doing. While you are at the zoo, take them by the petting area. Let them feel the world around them as they learn.Give kids the stimulation they need and watch th wheels start to turn as they grow and develop.Source: Dr Bill Maier

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It’s your little girl’s first day of preschool ! So who’s more nervous, you or your daughter?

Sending kids off to school for the first time is a big step, and not all kids are ready to let go of Mum and Dad. That’s why you should take time to prepare them before the big day comes.

Begin by taking your child on a tour of the school- hopefully while it’s still in session. Introduce her to the teacher, and show her the toilet and the play area.

If there’s art in the hallways, make a big deal about it. Tell her: ” I can’t wait to see your drawings on the wall. Won’t it be fun ? ”

When you take her shopping for school supplies, let her pick out some fun pencils and erasers, and maybe even a new backpack.

Preschooler is a scary step for a child, but preparing them ahead of time can make all difference in how they adjust.

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By Dr James Dobson

The measure of emotional safety at home can have lasting effects on the psychological well- bring of your children. A classis study of the child-rearing practices which followed more than 1500 boys from pre-adolescence to adulthood, produced three very interesting findings.

First, when love and appreciation are communicated to children, their self-esteem grows.

The second finding was that parents of children with high-esteem, were not only strict, but consistent in their discipline. If children find that rules at home are not being enforced, they often assume that no one cares enough to get involved.

The third ingredient that marked the home of the high-esteem children, was openness. Once the boundaries had been established, there was freedom for individual personalities to grow and develop.

So, a loving home that is emotionally safe, where boundaries are established and individuality is encouraged, permits children to blossom into confident adults.

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